i know you’re out there

alright you pregnant ladies and expectant gentledudes, when i say “a doula” i mean ME. me. me. M. E. ME!  even if it’s not me just get yourself a doula. you’ll be forever thankful that you did.

but reasons why it should be me: 1 – i’m awesome  2 – most of the time i smell nice  3 – i’m not a full blown doula yet so pricing is in your favor. i’m referring to myself as a “doulette” until i complete all my certification. if you are one of my certifying births you will receive the full doula experience at less than half the cost. make smart decisions b/c we’re in a recession! i do have one birth experience under my belt, in addition to that of my daughter, so i’m not totally green. maybe more like chartreuse.

happy birthing to you all!

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a semi-communion with nature

when i say semi i mean that we could still hear the semis speeding along the superhighway. the audubon park is a little nook of nature carved into the cityscape between the two biggest highways that pass through columbus. still, it’s one of our favorite spots to play, bike, hike and spy a little nature. here’s our latest nature hike.

photo 1. our path  2. darla holds my hand; a momentous event  3. our shadows turned out more “poltergeist” than i would’ve liked but, eh  4. she climbed stuff  5. deer tracks!  6. “take heed. for the path you are about to choose will lead to certain destruction!”  7. she enjoyed being able to run as far in front of me as she liked without restriction  8. i realized halfway through the trip that it was incredibly insensitive of me to wear a hat adorned with a feather to a park dedicated to avian conservation  9. you can’t see the little guy but a shrew was in the underbrush rooting for his breakfast. we watched him for ten minutes – a personal record for d’s attention span and ability to stay fairly quiet  10. she climbed more stuff  11. she left “directions” for other hikers so they wouldn’t get lost  12. N is for nature  13. examined moss. i’m going to have to get a magnifying glass to bring along for future wilderness treks  14 & 15 shoulder ride and her turn to wear the hat  16. salvaged item art inside the audubon center.

this trip was the first time we’d ventured inside of the center. wowza, what incredibly wonderful resources and setting. we spent a good hour in the reading library which architecturally consists of 3 walls of glass looking out over the park. lots of birds flying to and fro and stuff. i’m hoping i’ll be able to get darla a jump start on learning plant names, bird species, trees, etc. those are all things about which i wish i had more of a knowledge bank.

it was a very organically educational, carefree day for us. there were many more discoveries and new experiences that i didn’t capture because i did force myself to put the camera away and just be present. i love how everything seems like such a marvel in nature. the pictures don’t even do justice to the weather and the jubilant attitude darla exuded that day. universe, i’d like more days like that one, please.

dear salty sailor,

hey mr. “i’m gonna be home in three weeks.” we miss ya over here.

the first thing i have to tell you is darla has gotten it into her head that the first conversation you and she will have when we greet you will go like this, in her words; “dad will say ‘who IS this big girl? what happened to my baby?’ and then i will say ‘i growed up, dad.” so if you could do your part to memorize your lines i think it would make her one happy, big girl. winkety wink. oh, she also then informed that if i have another baby then that one will just grow up, too.

she has been an extra good, sweet girl for me this week. there were moments of her being a little haywire during all the birthday goodness but, in all fairness, her blood probably resembled something close to a simple syrup by 11 am so i let her have a day pass.

we had a really wonderful weekend visit with your folks. they gave me lots of assistance and i feel a bit revived from their helping hands. i think i’m gonna make it through to the end of this tour without a major breakdown. for the first time in history! i’m very much looking forward to our thanksgiving trip to TN and darla was all but begging your parents to take her with them when they left. i think this is an indicator that she is ready for another slice of nashvegas or she is just as sick of being stuck alone with me as i am. or both.

there are only two comments darla made that i managed to chicken scratch down. i think this is our daughter’s explanation for tattoos. “mom, some people are colorful and some are not. some people are all painted (insert these rapid wild arm motions that shows paint all over arms and legs) with lots of colors.” she also gave me a guilt trip today. sighs loudly, “you and daddy go to concerts and i’m….i’m so lonely.” i think the girl is telling us she wants to tag along to rock out more often.

here’s our pics from the week. sorry there aren’t any of your parental units. we’ll have to be photo ninjas during our thanksgiving visit.

our girl’s first braid. love these milestones. you’ve missed some pretty good hair days this tour. of mine, not darla’s.

you can hardly see but she was making funny faces in the mirror

these next few are some mommy + daughter shots at clare bear’s birthday. we were having fun with bubbles.

it’s hard to see but she blew the bubbles and then caught one again on the wand.

also, see what i mean about the good hair days?

sending you off with some words of love. i know one little girl who is missing you somethin’ fierce and one big girl for whom the feeling is mutual. we’ll try to be extra boring these next three weeks so you don’t miss out on too much more.

love and misses and lots of kisses,

wifey

birthdays abound

our best little dude friend and our favorite cousin/niece* share a birthday week so it really just bums darla out that she has to attend two birthday parties on one day every year. sarcasm! i use it!

yesterday was filled with lots of excitement and lovely treats and refreshments from two very well put together and thoughtful parties. also, the weather couldn’t have been better considering it’s been a little on the damp side in ohio lately. here’s what i captured of kiddos enjoying the revelry.

1.being the center of attention is a bit overwhelming 2. sesame street cookiesshe be climbing things e’rywherewhere’s the birthday girl? there she is!

you, umm, on your face…you got some on your face. blue. you got blue on your face.

present time. not as in “right now” but as in the gift unwrapping sense of the term. most parent approved gift

“first, i say we hang ‘im.

then we smash ‘im. then we stomp ‘im. then we kill ‘im!”

double fisting

our favorite dude

decorating pumpkins

CAKE. CANDY. CAKE. JUICE. CANDY. CANDY. CAAAAAAAKE!!!!

*this is to mean darla’s cousin and my niece. not that she is a cousin niece all in one package. that would be off and i don’t know how that is even possible. i’ll ask kentucky.

let’s reminisce. shall we?

approximately a year ago, my lovely, talented long time friend and indianapolis based photographer, jamie wolma, turned her lens on my little girl. let’s look back a year, hmmm?

because i love both versions

now two things are coming to mind. the first being that i need to again thank my mother for setting up the shoot with jamie. second, i need to schedule a follow up shoot with jamie to document the growth this little bean sprout has done this past year. maybe a whole new tutu will be involved….

ok, a third thought is floating to the surface. right after this shoot mike and i headed to bloomington to join up with my cousin and saw a raucous GBV show at the bluebird. we also had an extremely delicious meal at FARM. ’twas a good night. october 2010 was a banner month. really. just the best.

black angels descend blanketing columbus in flannel

this won’t be a real concert review b/c i can’t tell you the names of the songs they sang or the intricacies of the music they played. i can only tell you there was flannel. seas of flannel.

i really only dig music for one reason alone: to shake my hair and my booty. sometimes in the same direction. sometimes in opposing directions. ahhhhwwww shake it momma.

ok, there is another reason. i like to sing along but that applies to only a certain subset of bands. i sing along in the crowd very loudly and tell myself that i’m actually better than the artist on stage. the black angels does not, however, fall into that category. neither does the dead meadow – the opening band wednesday night. both bands relied heavily on reverb and vocal echoes so i can’t even pretend that i understood any of their songs. very little of the words penetrated the aforementioned shaking of the hair. the black angels did play a song with the words “surf city” in the chorus though. i dug it. really, i enjoyed both bands quite immensely. i’ve seen the black angels at least twice before and had forgotten how good they are. i left feeling like i should follow them and every other band in the world more closely. i need to get back into my music lovership.

for the lack of detail and any actual structure, i can’t really say that i’m writing this for any real music journalist street cred. what i’m really accomplishing is publishing that “HEY, I’M A MOM AND I STILL DO COOL THINGS. I’M A PERSON TOO!” i’m sure some might be out there saying “but, Your Momness, (in my brain you all refer to me as this combination of mom and highness) you just took a 5 day jaunt to california why would you need another reprieve so soon?” well, it’s not my fault that they scheduled this tubular $5 show mere days after my return. sometimes you have to just jump at the opportunities and the offers for babysitting from friends unversed in your child’s demonic behavior. i’ve found that, at least for moi, i really need to keep up with some of my own hobbies and loves and have time out for myself to be a good mom. i’m inferior in the fact that i’m still really selfish with my time and i can’t give it all up to be devoted solely to darla. sometimes i wish i could but truthfully i think it will be in her favor in the end. I want darla to know that she can be a mom and not lose her whole, entire identity. i want her to grow up and say “my mom was an art lover, an avid reader, a music enthusiast and one hell of a booty shaker.”

so i just want to put it out there that if you are a new mom or a seasoned mom, you should know that you can still shake it if you wanna.

this segues into another recent story from my world. on our one night out in california, i was approached by a tall, handsome* **, englishman at a famous dischotheque. he offered to buy me a drink to which i immediately declined politely and told him i am married. his official response was (cue hugh grant accent) “why are you shaking your hair, then.” my response, “i’m married not dead” and excused myself from his presence. soooo, i’m also in favor of the ladies who are nuptually bound to continue shaking it.

i’m just a fan of shaking it! woooo hoooo! yeah! pretty much always have been and always will be. seriously, i was semi-famous for hair shaking in high school. this is my official disclaimer – no matter what other parameters involved in my life i will always and forever be shaking something.

what was this supposed to be about? how did i get onto this soapbox? i need to go focus on a dot on the wall and recenter. thanks for reading.

bye!

*dearest michael, he wasn’t really that handsome and the discotheque wasn’t famous. it wasn’t even a discotheque. i have my doubts as to whether he was actually english. maybe welsh. anyways, i was just trying to make you jealous so you’d remember how much you love me all the way over there. awwwwwwww. so sweet.

** he was tall.

los angeles lied to me

los angeles told me that it was always sunny and balmy. los angeles told me my friends are right around the corner and ready to meet up for decadent dinners and uniquely concocted cocktails on a daily basis. los angeles told me i could sleep in until 10 every day if i wanted to. it also said i could shop constantly and not worry one bit about my credit card bill.

all of those things became sweet nothings once my plane touched down in indianapolis.

these things happened on my sabbatical: shopping, food, friends, laughs, sun, shoppping, drinks, sightseeing, ocean breezes, more shopping, more food, delicious food, oh-my-god the food, walks, rest, snuggles, friends, new friends and missing my little mini-me.

it was just what i needed and i can’t thank enough all the dear friends who took time out to meet up, catch up, and house me. this trip was just what i needed. i’m always very bad about taking a moment away to take pictures when it comes to myself. here’s the tiny, tiny amount i captured from the most optimistic city i’ve yet to encounter.

friends and sunshine on a venice beach bike ride

does a beautiful back deck make beautiful people more beautiful or vice versa? PeeR At THis PaiR OF PEErs ON thE PieR. my radical flight partner rode on the wing. i hope the stewardess’ didn’t take him down!

i’m already looking forward to planning another trip out to la la with little da-la. also looking forward to planning my next adventure. where should we travel next? where will you travel next?

cheers to adventures dreamed by you and by me.

link section: here’s a few links to places we encountered on my trip:  venice ale house …. the tasting kitchen – in care of LA’s best bartender …. huckleberry ….peek, aren’t you curiousintimacytownhousegjelinakid fireflyborder grill and pinkberry!

remedial p

just a few pics from some more work we did with the letter p.

darla wore all pink and also purple socks. she even wore her pink pachyderm underpants. i drew a picture of her in her outfit and then she set to coloring. we also did puzzles, including a pirate puzzle. we had pretzels, pepperoni and later on popcorn. there was other stuff but hey, i forget. i’m sure it was a) educational and b) annoying and p) all about p.

upon completion of the puzzle she lay down and began to “swim” alongside the boat. what a nut.